Chasm opening up?

Chasm opening up? by Kay Laurence | Seeing with New Eyes The more I see the adverts for “sit, down, come, stay heel” as the essential basics for every dog to be a well-mannered companion, the more I feel I am moving further and further away from what is general view of living with dogs. Essential for whom? Are we just making dogs compliant for people or should we give more consideration to what is going to be beneficial for that dog, living in that lifestyle and an uncertain future? The methods used in securing this compliance are half a century away from what was being accepted as essential training in the 1970s. A tremendous step forward, even if the language has introduced “fur-babies” and pampered pooches. But the agenda is still the same: management, compliance and obedience. The message is the same: people are masters of dogs. Training is something that is done TO the dog. Learning is something that happens FOR the dog. Dogs have been successfully learning for thousands of years, it is modern society that has imposed an acceptance on how they consider dogs should behave. This is often in conflict with the learning skills that dogs possess and, even with positive overtones, is about suppression of behaviour, compliance and easy management. Is this the future of living with dogs? I would be extremely unhappy if an onlooker described my dogs as “obedient”. This perception that a good dog is one that complies with every command without question, rarely needs rewards (because they do it for the love of you) and is never naughty. I sincerely hope that the onlooker, society-without-a-face, comes back as that dog. No personality, no joy in being a dog and running for pleasure, rolling in fresh grass and chewing to relax. What about connection? Instead of using positive whatever-label-is-the-current-fashion, we build connection out of which develops a desire to join in activities because we enjoy doing them together. We walk together, not in conflict, we adjust to each other, not find fault. Recall training: the really reliable way to let your dog bugger off so you can ignore them until something goes seriously wrong and you need to recapture before you are mortally embarrassed. How about levelling the balance – why is the job of responding the dog’s and not the person’s? Wouldn’t it be more urgent, and safer, to ask a dog to stop when travelling away from you? If you have ever seen two dogs out and about together there are signals that “call” the other dog through an increase in activity. One dog begins to become more animated by a scent in the air and the

other dog responds and seeks to join them – to share the pleasure together. How often have you joined in your dog’s “call to action”, but you want them to always, be reliable, to your call to action? I don’t expect to start rolling in anything to share the pleasure, but I do plan to be attentive and curious when my dog wants to stop a smell the breeze. I do expect to use safety equipment for all the conditions where my dog will never be near traffic without my guidance and holding my hand. I do expect to invest time and thoughtfulness into “wait there” for safety. I do expect my dogs to bark at unexpected and potentially threatening changes in the environment, I plan to respond to this call, use my exceptional human skills to assess the situation and suggest a stand down, continued observation, or proceed further. Sit is not, and has NEVER been, a life skill It is just a management behaviour, a route to awards and social approval from society. Because all good dogs sit. How do we move forwards and develop a lifelong companion that we can equally share enjoyment in activities? Perhaps we begin with our new friend - that is our plan, a friend, not accessory, lifestyle image, fashion or means to social fame. Not a fur baby, pampered pooch, or temporary entertainment source. This friend that we want to discover more about – what they like, their interests that we can share, what makes them grumpy, what makes them happy. Activities that build our understanding of each other. As we share new experiences we look for beginnings of uncertainty or engagement, a change or development, progress or regression. Daily, we collect a bag of Good Thing to Examine. This can be several items from your pantry, your rubbish bin, or your garage, or your wardrobe, or in your pocket. You sit with the bag, the puppy, the new friend and take out an item and cup it in your hands. You talk to the tins of peaches, bag of spaghetti, in a quiet voice, showing interest, turning it around, smelling it. Your friend shares this activity. If they are eager to share with their teeth, then we begin with less edible or stimulating items. We can gently block with one hand as we turn the item around and encourage sniffing and watching as we talk. Everything will smell of something different – take a whiff yourself. Put that item away, and make a small drama of seeking another item from the bag or pillow case. Explore it together. Does it open and reveal something new? Perhaps a box will unwrap to a tasty surprise. Does it make a different sound as you turn it around? Perhaps open the bag and le

t your pal make the choice? What learning has happened? Your friend has experienced new scents, they are building their library of smells – with you. Your friend has learned that your hands contain items of interest that can be looked at but not grabbed, your hands can serve as shields. Your friend has learned to finish that activity as you put the item away. “That’s all”. They have learned to wait and anticipate something new to look at. They have learned your voice has different tones that will represent interest, or disappointment. They have learned that unique sound and join you when you are looking for the bag of treasures. You have spent 10 minutes of quality time together that was not overexciting, over arousing but stimulating and interesting. If you have other friends that also have new friends, you can exchange bags – see what someone else’s bag contains. Curiosity will have no limits – don’t you already want to see what I put in my bag? Which class would you prefer to go to? Sit-Stay-Come, or explore a bunch of weird objects together? Learn what your friends find interesting or boring or fascinating? Learn to enjoy a conversation and learn to listen? This bag of treasure is your dog’s world, their future outings. What scents do they follow, how long are they engaged. Can you pretend engagement in return for a quiet evening whilst you enjoy your entertainment? Can you learn how to connect and enjoy a moment together and then move on to seek more moments? This is your shared walk in the woods, a series of moments together. If you have that connection at the core of your relationship the Stay, Come, Heel will not be required. Let’s build a future where we have dogs that are confident and curious, patient with our lack of understanding and ecstatic when we respond to their calls to action. Dogs that are sharing a learning journey with us, travelling to outcomes that we can equally enjoy. Friendship that has resilience, allows us to at times take liberties, at times to put their needs secondary and special days and holidays that build memories of pleasure. Build friendships and families, not compliance and good behaviour. Discover personalities, see strengths and skills, see amazing and delightful, extraordinary possibilities not impressive tricks. Learn to change the way you see dogs. Guidance is not dependence Guidance can be the lightest change in contingencies, an extra antecedent. I can place a palette of different paints and brushes next to the chair. It doesn’t mean you need to paint the chair, you could sit on the chair and paint your own s

hoes, but just the presence of the tools would give you guidance. Read More Chasm opening up? The more I see “sit, down, come, stay heel” as the essential basics the more I am moving further away from the general view of living with dogs. Read More The Fade-in Protocol Even though today we are surrounded by many available protocols for teaching with positive reinforcement, there is still a persistence that a dog should be set-up to make an error. An error is simply the difference between my expectation and the dog’s response. No more “distractions”, but faded-in environments. Read More You did everything right but …. But it still hasn’t worked out, even after 6 years? Yeah, it can be disappointing, but at times even the “perfect” protocol, applied with accuracy can undo itself and we go around in the circle again. Read More The Spaces Between At the heart of learner-centred education, the teacher acts as a guide whose role is to elicit rather than to impart, and learners quickly become empowered and equipped to transfer their knowledge and skills to new scenarios. Read More Science Doesn’t Have All the Answers We lean on science in our efforts to bridge the gap as though it provides the answers to how things should be rather than describing how things are understood. Read More Since the Dawn of Dog Training The old joke reminds us that the only thing dog trainers can agree on is that their training method in the best one. It becomes increasingly difficult to know which method is “right” and whether it will suit the dog, the situation and trainer’s skills. Read More Learning is not for spectators Are you an Active Learner? Or: Are you getting your money’s worth for online courses? It would not matter what subject we are talking about:... Read More Not Today and Not for My Sheepdogs Standard protocols of extinction, impulse control, counterconditioning are quickly grabbed off the shelf as satisfactory solutions. These solutions are unlikely to help your collie, your sheepdog as the focus is heavily on suppression of who they are and why they live. Read More It’s Not Training A carefully planned learning pathway, paced to suit that particular learner for their life ahead. Read More Do you see what I see Doing better is the reward from doing the work. This work needs to be the right work at the right time with the right intent done in the right way. Read More A Cue or not a cue? With thoughtful planning and a good understanding of the relevance of antecedent selection we can teach the dog the skills of sorting the wheat from the chaff, finding the bones of t

he exercise. This skill is critical to being able to distinguish between distractions, which are just cues for an alternative reward opportunity, and cues which signify a guarantee of success. Read More Reasons to use a clicker The concept of “being a clicker trainer” is always going to lead to argument and misunderstanding because it cannot exist alongside the science and technology. It is a “fakery” of our time. The clicker itself is a simple tool that when used in conjunction with technology provides clarity and understanding in teaching. Read More Herding Games For All Dogs? The wrong herding game is like trying to make a tennis player succeed at football Read More Duration: sustaining movement Continuing and maintaining a specific movement Read More Luring: Hand lures Learning the skills for clear communication with hand-lure: collect, engage, follow, feed. Read More Not all lures contain food “the direct use of the reinforcer to elicit the behaviour” This should always be foremost in our mind, in that many alternatives lures are available. Read More Fast does not mean better We are becoming surrounded by a culture of fast. We are being sold that immediate gratification is the only solution. Read More Why add fun? When an activity gives intrinsic pleasure we do not need to add fun. Read More When we train a dog it grows Most training starts from necessity. Management is a necessity but it usually benefits all parties by a reduction of conflict. Are they expanding their skills to benefit us or for their benefit? Read More 4 Comments Helen Mayes on 30th March 2021 at 5:52 pm I totally have changed to way I see dogs. My first dog a rescue Cindy a labrador 43 years ago. My husband and I went ‘training’ in a small hall. We then purchased a puppy a Golden Retriever ‘Holly’. We still did not understand dogs and went again to Training Classes. This so called trainer was a horrid lady. Holly rebelled, do not blame her, she probably did not like us. We found a more favourable club that taught with play. It was a Working Trials Club. More on that later. Then came Jake a Springer Spaniel and Biddy a crossbred who has taught me so much. Then came Bill another Springer who has taught me so much also. I have learnt with you reading ‘Learning About Dogs’ magazines and other reputable people ‘Ian Dunbar’, ‘Jean Donaldson’, Chirag Patel and others. Working Trials includes the scale, where dogs scale over 6′. with no consideration for the dogs body, which is something now more people are aware of. Not enough unfortunately. I am still on the committee of the Working Tr

ials Club and at the moment attempting to close this to stop dogs being injured because of people. All we can do is educate, educate, educate and hope more members of public understand the dog as a being. I understand how difficult this is. All we can do is try. Sorry for the grammer. Reply Nushka on 30th June 2021 at 8:56 pm That’s lovely. For the special-needs collie-type I have this is so “selbstverstandlich” that I wouldn’t have been able to put this in words. He resists any type of constraint – physical and pshychological, and joins in with puppy-like glee when there is a shared adventure. He is very willing to learn. We even got stuck a few times because of his diligence and my ignorance: it took me months to realize why he wouldn’t step out of the car in the garage. Practicing hopping in and out of the car outside of actual car trips, didn’t make a dent in his “stuckness” when the car was back in the garage after an actual trip. One day in a flash moment, I understood: away from home I had asked him to wait for me 1) to put on his leash, 2) to ask him to come out of the car before hopping out. Inside the closed garage I had skipped (1). All these months he would stare into my eyes with his bum glued to the car when I invited him to hop out. The day I was enlightened and clipped on the leash in the garage as I did at the park it was like I had flicked on the green light. LOL He’s such a teacher for me, but only because I let him be that. Reply Rose Barham on 20th May 2022 at 8:54 am Love it. I have dogs because I like dogs. I don’t want the obedient little slave of the past. I’ve been criticised for my wild nearly 16 month old being out of control. No, he’s not. This is coming from an obedience person. I am doing things my way with him and not letting anyone sway me. I do hoopers with him as he likes to run and basically thats all hoopers is. Yes perhaps he’s a wild child but I love him like that. When he’s finished his turn I just tell him bed and he runs to the crate he’s been allocated. Luckily my instructor understands him and if the door is closed she opens it for him. PS I have bad arthritis now, knee, wrists and hands. Both shoulders have been replaced which is mostly why my priorities with my dogs has changed. Reply Kay Laurence on 20th May 2022 at 9:21 am Swimming against the current can be hard work at times, but fortunately we live with our dogs, who are all going in the same direction and supporting us! Keep swimming! Reply Submit a Comment Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Comment * Nam

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